Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Americans increasingly prefer Democrats on healthcare: Reuters/Ipsos poll

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Americans increasingly prefer Democrats on healthcare: Reuters/Ipsos poll

Esparza sleeps in the arms of her grandfather as they wait in line at a health insurance enrollment event in Cudahy, CaliforniaBy Gabriel Debenedetti WASHINGTON (Reuters) - Americans increasingly think Democrats have a better plan for healthcare than Republicans, according to a Reuters/Ipsos poll conducted after the White House announced that more people than expected had signed up for the "Obamacare" health plan. Nearly one-third of respondents in the online survey released on Tuesday said they prefer Democrats' plan, policy or approach to healthcare, compared to just 18 percent for Republicans. Secretary of Health and Human Services Kathleen Sebelius stepped down last week after overseeing the law's rollout, including the HealthCare.gov website's tumultuous first weeks, when many users were unable to access the system to purchase or research their insurance options.





Weird News - The Huffington Post

X-Pop: Is It Ice Cream Or A Sex Toy?

A brand new popsicle from the Swedish ice cream company GB Glace is arousing controversy because of its phallic shape.



The X-Pop comes with a tip filled with sherbet that explodes in the mouth once you bite into it.









Health & Science: Science News, Health News, Scientific Developments, Healthcare & Nutrition - The Washington Post

Federal appeals court says EPA can force power plants to cut mercury emissions

A federal appeals court on Tuesday upheld regulations adopted by the Environmental Protection Agency to cut mercury and other emissions from large power plants, a setback for states and energy trade groups that have been challenging Clean Air Act regulations during the Obama administration.

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Good News - The Huffington Post

One Minute Of Prickly, Sleepy, But Oh So Very Cute Hedgehogs. You're Welcome.

Hedgehogs are adorable and that's a fact. So take a moment to feast your eyes on the impossible cuteness of these sleepy hedgehogs. We promise it will be the best minute of your day.





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Hedgehogs have risen in popularity in recent years, but like other fads, Petfinder.com warns that many of the animals may be abandoned after owners lose interest. If you're interested in becoming a hedgehog rescuer, you can head on over to the Hedgehog Welfare Society or contact your local animal shelter.


One Door Closes and Another One Opens

I have found myself thinking to myself, "Am I where I am supposed to be?" Once I get out of my head and let a little time pass, I realize, "Yes! I am exactly where I am supposed to be."



Earlier this year I went to Washington, D.C., to meet with LGBT activists from Russia. We had a press conference, and I was able to share my journey and offer my support for what these brave individuals are doing in a country that seems to hate LGBT people. This was prior to the Olympic Games in Sochi.



I knew I was on the short list to be named to the official U.S. delegation to represent our country at the Olympics, which is a very prestigious honor.



The following week the announcement was made. I was not on the list to go over to Sochi. Door closed. I was a little disheartened.



The plan was that I was to go over for the Olympics and then to the LGBT-affirming Russian Open Games.



We struggled, but those LGBT activists from Russia did get me to Moscow for the Russian Open Games. The person who rushed my visa through commented that it was a good thing that I was going to a country where people can be bribed.



It turned out that Moscow was exactly where I needed to be! The contrast between my experiences there and the experiences that friends of mine had in Sochi was extreme, to say the least. (I've written about those experiences in earlier blog posts here on HuffPost.) I was supposed to be there to bear witness to the treatment of LGBT persons in an intolerant country -- and that treatment wasn't kind.



Next I was invited to Chicago share my journey with HIV/AIDS at Open Door.



We got there on Friday, and my husband was feeling under the weather, so we had a low-key weekend.



We walked around the town of Geneva and met up with some wonderful people, a straight, humble, country-club couple from the area, and we shared our lives with each other. I had a sense of suspended time, as though I were right where I should be.



The next morning we went to the hospital to make a visit to the coordinator of the event; he'd had heart bypass surgery and was not going to be able to attend the event. Again, I was right where I was supposed to be. I was slowing down and listening.



That evening was the event. It was amazing to learn a few things. For one, it was reported that early detection and treatment of the HIV virus can greatly lessen the opportunity for transmission, especially if one's viral load can be reduced to undetectable levels. This is the reason for regular testing.



The second thing about the trip was when the director revealed that the original contractor, who is well known in the area for doing work with many charity groups to realize people's dreams, had retracted his bid to do the work because it would have serviced the LGBT community. Really? With marriage equality -- indeed, equality in general -- taking hold, this is still happening? Unfortunately, yes, it is happening.



A door closed, but another door will open for Open Door. I know it!



The organization will be even more wonderful and will continue its outreach, treatment, education and support of the LGBT and HIV/AIDS community in the suburbs of Chicago.


By Just Watching This Video Of Puppies, You're Donating Money To Charity

This video might be the most clever way to raise money for dogs in need, because all you need to do is watch it.



"Just by watching these puppies, you're raising money for dogs in need," says the narrator in the video above. "You see, if a video goes viral, YouTube shares the money they made from advertising with whoever made the video, and in this case, every dollar we earn will go toward feeding, treating and finding homes for dogs who haven't been as lucky as us."



The video comes from The Pedigree Adoption Drive, and ends by imploring viewers to share because the more views received, the more money will be raised.



So share this video. You know, for the dogs.



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8 Steps to Exodus From Your Bondage

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GPS for the Soul - The Huffington Post

8 Steps to Exodus From Your Bondage

Passover is the story of the Hebrew's exodus from the bonds of 400 years of slavery to freedom as a Jewish people. Although today there is no slavery to Pharaoh, bondage remains a metaphor for relinquishing your freedom to the bondage of life.



Modern day bondage takes many forms: food addiction, unhappy relationships, workaholism, over stressed, over anxious, over weight. All represent beliefs we internalize and allow to bind us.



If you feel immobilized, stuck, captive or feel you do not control your life, it doesn't have to be that way. You can live both free and freely. It just requires reframing your beliefs to release the shackles that bind you. Since Passover lasts for eight days, here are eight steps to exodus from your bondage using Passover as an acronym.



P = Permission -- This is the first step and one of the most challenging. If Moses didn't believe freedom was possible, the Hebrews would have stayed in Egypt. What beliefs immobilize you? Why? It is said that people who live in the past feel depressed and those who live in the future feel anxious. What can you do to live in the present -- to experience this moment as a joyous experience? Visualize where you want to be or what you want to happen and move toward that place. Give yourself permission and freedom becomes possible.



A = Associations -- Author Dan Buettner, author of Blue Zones, found that people who socialize live longer, healthier lives. Whether you are spending time with friends or family or in a connected group such as your congregation or other social experience, doing so regularly helps provide beliefs, behaviors and perspectives that are liberating and that contribute to freedom, happiness and longevity.



S = Stress Reduction -- People have always known stress. A little of it allows you to prepare for a lecture or a sporting event, avert a car accident or run out of a burning building. But chronic stress is responsible for up to 80 percent of primary care visits to the doctor, only 3 percent actually receive stress management counseling. Stress and its sidekick, fear, can bind you in your current situation and prevent you from trying new things. The future can be brighter if you simply move toward the light. As Joseph Campbell said, "The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." What are you avoiding that could set you free?



S = Sleep More -- 70 million adults don't get the seven or more hours of sleep each night they need. That leads to poor memory, poor performance on the job, poor family dynamics, falling asleep at the wheel, obesity, diabetes, heart disease and more. If you feel bad and sleepy, you are much less likely to risk doing or seeing things differently. You have to be alert to find and follow the path to new freedom.



O = Organize -- Are you surrounded by piles of work? No time to try things differently? Organizing can change that. Clear the piles that clutter your home and office. You may find the unopened letter offering you a new position or the recipe for the tzimmas you misplaced. Organizing your day with blocks of time to think of and try new things suddenly opens the door to opportunity.



V = Vocalize -- Think of this in two ways: 1) Sing. It frees your spirit to move to a new place and 2) Speak what is on your mind. Saying your fears out loud, verbalizing what you want to achieve or where you want to be makes it real and makes it possible.



E = Exercise -- Poor health and obesity are a type of bondage. You can't do the things you want to do or some of the things that bring you joy. Make exercise a habit, one you do every day. Start with just five minutes daily and work up to 30 or even 60 minutes. Your brain and body will work better and for longer.



R = Resolve -- As Helen Keller once said, "Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties." This Passover as you sit at the Seder reading about the exodus of the Hebrews from Egypt, take a moment to reflect on the things that bind you. It's the perfect time to begin the exodus from your bondage.



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Heartwarming Play Brings Young Fans With Muscular Dystrophy Onto The Field

The NCAA may be embroiled in controversy over players' rights, but at least teams have their priorities straight when it comes to helping fans' dreams come true.



Exhibit A: At the end of practice Saturday, the Rutgers football team ran a special play for two longtime fans with muscular dystrophy.



A video of the play opens with Matt DeRiggi, 11, and Danny Garofalo, 16, on-field in the middle of the huddle. After the snap, Matt gets the ball on a handoff from quarterback Gary Nova, who then hands it off to Danny in a trick play known as a reverse. Danny then wheels into the end zone with the ball, following a wall of blockers, for the touchdown.



After the score, players surround the two in celebration.



"[Danny] loved it," Danny's father, Dan, told Nj.com afterward. "That's what makes it all worth it. As small as something like that seems, it really is a big difference."



WATCH Rutgers' heartwarming play, above.


Meet Easter, A One-Eyed Kitten Who Got A Second Chance

Meet Easter. She's not even a year old, but she's already got a pretty harrowing story.



Easter was born feral in the Blue Ridge Mountains of Virginia after someone dumped her mother there. Fortunately, Easter and her family ended up in the care of a kind woman who took it upon herself to have the cats spayed and neutered, and let them live in her yard.


There's Such A Thing As A Bunny Hop Competition, And It Was Held In Prague

Who says horses should have all the fun?



Inspired by equestrian jumping events, rabbit enthusiasts in the Czech Republic recently organized a bunny hop competition as an early Easter celebration. In a video from the contest, the hares jump miniature fences and hurdles in a steeple chase race.



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A rabbit, a symbol of Easter, jumps over an obstacle during Rabbit Steeple Chase at the Old Town Square's Easter market on April 14, 2014 in Prague, Czech Republic.



Competition was fluffy fierce at the event, which was held in the city's Old Town Square. Event organizers told photographer Matej Divizna, who captured photos of the bunnies, that the rabbits jumped as far as 3 meters (nearly 9 feet).



While Prague's bunny hop competition was centered around the Easter holiday, there are numerous official rabbit jumping contests in Europe. The unconventional sport actually dates back to the 1970s, when it originated in Sweden, National Geographic notes.



h/t Death and Taxes




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15 Years After Columbine Shooting -- Reflections From Survivors

Whenever I visit my mom in Littleton, Colo., I'll often drive past Columbine High School while running errands around town. A sobering feeling always hits as my mind momentarily flashes back to April 20, 1999.



I was a junior...in my trigonometry class...the fire alarm screeched...we exited and gathered in the park across the street...chaotic rumors flew about a shooting...we ran...I met a friend at the elementary school...she had blood on her pants; it wasn't hers...my 15-year-old sister was trapped in a science classroom with 60 others as my basketball coach slowly bled to death from gunshot wounds...the boy who lived across the street didn't come home from school.



Fifteen years ago, we had a really bad day that left 15 people dead, 25 wounded and a community, even the nation, shaken by the senseless and inexplicable violence. I've written much and continue to write about Columbine, trying to bring meaning and to recognize the growth and healing that has emerged since the tragedy.



Recently, the Denver Post ran an article about a Columbine alumni who reportedly became withdrawn after the shooting, eventually turning to drugs and running away from home. My heart hurt for her and her family as the story caused me to reflect.



Although a lot of work, processing and counseling was necessary, so many of my classmates were able to deal with the tragedy in a way that led to deeper empathy, resilience and productive lives. At the same time, I know others who continue to be impacted in crippling ways that hold them back from finding joy or meaning.



Boiling this puzzling contrast down into a question: Why do some thrive while others stumble? Is it a simple matter of making a personal choice, choosing between surrender versus overcoming or despair versus happiness?



All of us, at some point in our lives, encounter Columbine moments -- challenging life experiences designed to change our hearts. It's never easy stepping through a refiner's fire, but constructive qualities like patience, strength and wisdom are often the result. Hoping to share a helpful perspective, I reached out to a few thriving classmates, asking what lessons they learned from Columbine.



Crystal Woodman Miller

Fifteen years ago, as I crouched under a table in the library at Columbine High School, waiting to die, one comforting thought crossed my mind -- I will get out of here alive. Hope would become an anchor and would give me courage to stay the course when I felt like giving up. For me personally, my hope was rooted in my faith in Jesus. Hope gave me the freedom to fully live again, the courage to heal, to share my story, to go to college, pursue my dreams, get married, have children and learn the importance of helping others.



Just months after April 20, 1999, I was invited to go to war-torn Kosovo to bring gifts and help children and families affected by war. I was struck by how much they had lost and suffered, but not only did they refuse to give up, they thrived.



Hiding under the table in the library at Columbine lasted seven and a half minutes, I had a nice home to return to, a family who loved and cared me, warm food, clean water, and the gift of my life. I became conscious of the fact, that there are people around the world who are struggling far worse than myself; who lived a tragedy 24/7. I began traveling around the world to help others in need. While I helped others, they in turn changed me. Their lives, their stories, their struggle, their perseverance, and their love impacted me so deeply that I knew I was going to be okay.



Lindsey Hansen Humphries

We often forget how fragile life is and take the most important people in our lives for granted. We should always treat those around us whether they be family, friends or strangers as if it were their last day. On April 20, 1999, we were not given the opportunity to say goodbye to our fellow classmates as they were taken so violently from us.



When my step-father was diagnosed with cancer I thought we would not have much time left with him. Sometimes we would forget about his cancer because he didn't look or act "sick," but then he would start a new drug or another round of treatment and reality would sink back in. My son seemed to remember that his papa would be gone all too soon, and he would spend hours on end with him. It was always a reminder to the rest of us that we should be doing the same.



Over the last 15 years it has been through serving my family and others around me that I have come to realize and appreciate life. There is so much joy I have come to see in my own life when I step out of my comfort zone and serve. It is through serving that you truly learn to love another and see the beauty that life has to offer.



I believe in a greater plan for our lives and that inspiration always comes at the time it's most needed. With an optimistic outlook, life has a way of working itself out. One of creation's greatest lessons is knowing that sunlight pushes darkness away, every day, every time.



A religious leader, Neil Anderson, recently spoke about trees that grow up in windy environments. The wind does one of two things, stimulate the roots to grow faster while spreading farther and forcing the tree to create cell structures that make the trunk and branches thicker. These strong roots and branches protect the tree from future winds.



Anderson reminds us:



"You are infinitely more precious to God than a tree. You are His son or His daughter. He made your spirit strong and capable of being resilient to the whirlwinds of life. How do you prepare? Remember it is upon the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, it shall have no power to drag you down because of the rock upon which ye are built."


By Just Watching This Video Of Puppies, You're Donating Money To Charity

This video might be the most clever way to raise money for dogs in need, because all you need to do is watch it.



"Just by watching these puppies, you're raising money for dogs in need," says the narrator in the video above. "You see, if a video goes viral, YouTube shares the money they made from advertising with whoever made the video, and in this case, every dollar we earn will go toward feeding, treating and finding homes for dogs who haven't been as lucky as us."



The video comes from The Pedigree Adoption Drive, and ends by imploring viewers to share because the more views received, the more money will be raised.



So share this video. You know, for the dogs.



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If You Don't Want Her to Be a Nag, Treat Her Like a Thoroughbred

No one likes a nag, and no one likes to be a nag. Having been on the receiving end of what I used to refer to as Linda's nagging, I can assure you that it's no fun to be constantly reminded of things that I had agreed to do, but hadn't yet done. Or to be scolded for doing something that I said I wouldn't do. My response would generally be one of defensiveness, rationalization or justification, none of which generally did much to relieve either Linda's frustration or my resentment in response to my feeling of being treated like a child. As you might expect, our reactions and counter-reactions to each other only served to amplify and more deeply entrench ourselves in these feelings.



In the days in which our relationship saw this pattern play itself out with great frequency it was pretty easy for each of us to see ourselves as victims of the other's wrongdoing. As many of us have noticed, it's much easier to see and focus on what the other person is doing wrong than it is to recognize and address one's own part in the scenario. Consequently, it's easier for the nagger to see why the other person needs to be reminded, corrected or reprimanded, and for the naggee to feel justified in responding with defensiveness, resentment and anger. Unfortunately in our case (and in most cases), such responses do little to address the underlying issues that need to be attended to.



Generally in cases like this, there are needs that are not being fulfilled, leaving one person feeling unseen, unheard, unimportant, devalued, neglected or uncared for, and the other person feeling resentful, guilty, harassed, violated, and irritated. At first glance, it can appear that the nagger is the perpetrator since her demands (it's more often than not, the woman who brings up relationship problems -- more about this later) and repeated reminders are an obvious source of tension in the relationship.



Upon closer examination, it becomes evident that the breakdown in the relationship is a function of an imbalance in the system itself. The unpleasant emotions that each partner is feeling are not being caused by either person, but rather by a failure on both partner's parts to participate in the relationship with respect, trustworthiness, and genuine concern for each other's well-being.



In other words, something has become more important to each of them than the deepening of goodwill, trust, and respectfulness in the relationship. Examples of these "competing commitments" include the desire to "prove" that "no one can tell me what to do," the fear that the other can't be trusted to keep his or her word which gives rise to the desire or control them into behaving differently, the desire to avoid feelings of guilt and shame by passively defying the other person's requests, or a response to feelings of frustration that have arisen out of repeated experiences of disappointment.



John Gottman, renowned researcher about successful couples, claims that women bring up relationship issues 85 percent of the time. Men seem to be able to more easily put these issues in a compartment and be less bothered by them than women. Simply bringing up a relationship issue can be for some men considered nagging. Gottman suggests that the way the issue is initially presented, particularly in regard to whether or not there is blame, which is either implicitly or explicitly expressed, significantly impacts the response to the introduction to the complainer's concern. When the conversation is initiated with what Gottman refers to as a "softened start-up," that is without threat, blame or accusation, there is a much greater likelihood that the cycle of nagging, defensiveness and resentment can be minimized and even avoided.



When this occurs, there is a much greater likelihood that the man will be much more inclined to accept influence from his female partner. And a man's willingness to accept influence from his partner is perhaps the most telling factor in the determination of a positive outcome of an unresolved issue. Accepting influence is not the same thing as accommodating or agreeing with everything that a partner thinks or wants. Rather, it involves a willingness to listen respectfully and attentively to his partner's concerns and to respond non-defensively and non-coercively with an intention to come up with a mutually satisfying resolution.



Since it is often the desire to fulfill an unmet need that motivates one partner to repeatedly attempt to address an issue, until that need is acknowledged and met (not necessarily by one's partner) the cycle will continue to repeat itself with increasingly painful results. Attending to the unfulfilled need that lies beneath the presenting complaint, to be loved, valued, respected, reassured, or acknowledged will address the real issue that underlies the presenting complaint.

When we begin to get curious rather than defensive and seek lean into rather than withdraw from the presenting situation, things can begin to change rapidly. Bringing a sense of wonder and genuine interest enables us to ask the kind of questions that can transform an impasse into a breakthrough. Questions like: "What is it that you need from me right now?" and really listening with full attention rather than planning your defensive response and trying to figure out ways to "win" the argument or get your partner off of your back.



Deep, compassionate, committed listening is what breaks the dark spell. Out of the emotional connection, understanding, a newfound cooperation, more trust, peace of mind, and ease is present in the relationship and in your life in general. In establishing this connection, the kinds of action steps that will deepen trust and understanding will become evident to both partners. And it is rarely if ever, the case that only partner has responsibility for implementing those steps. Doing so is a labor of love, not one of obligation or struggle. Whether we view our circumstance as a curse of a blessing is entirely up to us. And as we see the extraordinary possibilities that arise out of willingness to embrace our situation with love and gratitude rather than resentment, it becomes almost impossible to continue to keep our heart closed with defensiveness. The nagging cycle is finally over. May it rest in peace.


Introducing Blue

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The Blue Pearl by Endre Balogh. Used with permission.



On the morning of January 1, 1987, I started to see cobalt blue oval circles of light. Everywhere. I see those disks to this day. When this experience first started I went to a few close friends to tell them about it. I was confused. One told me about a spiritual tradition of the Blue Pearl. That helped. My world changed. Out of nowhere. I wasn't particularly spiritual, although I have always had a curiosity about the nature of reality. I grew up a junk food aficionado. Pizza being my Ph.D., burned the candle from all ends and thought sensuality was the be all and end all. I wasn't living the life of a monk tucked away in the Himalayas searching for the secret of life. I was surviving in Brighton Beach, Brooklyn.



Although they never disappeared, the frequency of these blue lights has increased exponentially since I moved to my present home, an island off the coast of Massachusetts. I am going through an intense transformation that perhaps is shared by others. It's difficult to describe, but imagine your energy feeling so powerful that your biology can hardly tolerate it. Add to that, a long-standing, painful chronic illness, then you might begin to understand the enormous contradiction I am presently living.



Many of us feel buffeted by forces beyond our control, thus we are helpless and angry and constantly reacting. I understand why one could feel that way given the constant reminders of how we mutilate each other both spontaneously and in more organized ventures such as war in its myriad of calamity. How we are dedicated to destroy the habitat in which we live -- an elegant, beautiful home that can appear from a distance to be a blue pearl. Some would call humans primitive and ignorant because of those circumstances. Others would assign to us a heroic status that we choose to incarnate in the midst of life-threatening chaos. Many would say that we have no choice. We live when we live and play the hand dealt to us. That also requires courage. I suggest rather than be transfixed by brutal images projected by our media, to look into the eyes of the nearest infant. To remember why you love and are loved.



I have grown to intimately know the consciousness that manifests as these blue lights. They are benevolent and only wish to help. Nevertheless, they are committed to not intervene in our evolution. They respect our process.



I unfurl my



Blue



I curve before an eternal pool into which I dive. When I feel safe in a blue clear lagoon, I see friends swimming beside me. I never expect them. I don't know them. They are cobalt blue circles of light of all sizes bright as the sun within my heart. At first I am fascinated by the spectacle presented to me. Then I want to know who or what they are. I want to understand more with my brain. I need to catch up to my soul. I rise from my mind no longer asleep in black whirlpools. The cacophony of suffering is calm. My friends, my blue circles, witness earth's essence.



I awake through a liquid mirror. I energetically wash myself and think I have it made. I swear that these lights are celebrating, laughing, getting drunk. This is my alpha and omega. This journey would dwarf all paths that I had previously walked.



Once 10 years soared as I sat three times a week in classes with a medium, a channeler of spirit. A very nice woman, in her 30s who was shocked by her ability to be the vessel through which an astonishing energy would manifest upon her going into what she described as a light trance. At the time I was creating a theatre piece and as an afterthought an actress in my ensemble recommended I go sit with a medium she knew. When I attended my first class (and class is the only way to describe these gatherings), I was very skeptical. There were 10 other people in a tiny Greenwich Village studio, all assembled around this young unassuming woman. As she went into her trance, I looked behind her neck to perhaps find vertical strings emanating from her back and someone, somewhere pulling them. Then I thought that maybe it was a magic trick, but during the hundreds of times I attended these very special classes I never found the source of trickery. The source (sauce) was within. Shortly after I began sitting with this young woman who looked like Diane Keaton, I gave into the incredible feeling that would fill my body every time spirit would speak. A spirit named Mary showered us with infinite love that elevated our breath.



The room softens. Mary enters. She merges with our heart and soul. The atmosphere is charged with unconditional love. Students unwrap from their sleep. Her curriculum is daily life. Her lesson is simple.



Accept What Is



On the first day of my profound buoyancy, I awoke to find an illuminated rainbow hanging in front of me. At first I thought it was light streaming through my bedroom window in my rickety Brighton Beach cottage, but then I realized that my French louvers were shut tight leaving the room in darkness. When I left the room I expected this "optical illusion" to disappear. However, when I came back to my bedroom it was still shimmering in the same spot as when I had left. This time I had a chance to inspect this small rainbow from all angles. It was magical. Then it disappeared.



One hour later cobalt blue light circles appeared to me. Somewhat oval shaped. They were bright. I went outside and saw them in trees, on the beach; prancing on the ocean, dancing on the backs of people; in short, they were everywhere. As time raced through my biology, these lights were my constant companion. Sometimes they were so bright in the darkness of my home, I had to shut my eyes for fear of being blinded. One night while sitting with my pure white, green eyed cat on my dilapidated couch in the darkness of my living room, I was delighted by a blue dancing display celebrating in front of my television, which was turned off. They were neon bright, unbearably charging the air. They hurt my eyes. I shouted out for them to stop(!) and they disappeared only to return the next day in the cold, January day.



In class I asked Mary who or what these lights were and she told me that they were my resonance; that they were conscious beings, that they were me. Hard to believe. Harder to understand.



So life continued. Employed, loved, unloved, lonely, not lonely, unemployed, sad, happy, healthy, sick, everything the same as before with one difference. These intense oval shaped cobalt blue lights were everywhere. They were my ocean. My pool of reflection. They are my destination.



In a moment of time in a moment of space I walk down a black Island road on the other side of midnight. I pray for guidance. Suddenly upon my heart's command, neon blue ovals stand side by side at the intersection of being and joy. They light the sandy terrain, beautiful silhouettes appearing from roots of despair. I follow these laughing lights; assured that pleasure awaits my appearance.



My house was down the road, two miles from the final, midnight ferry and I never would have arrived home safely in that hot summer night if not for jubilant light. As I write about this now on the precipice of sickly, old age, the scent of island summers returns. My friends never depart. They/we endure.



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Male Police Officer Dresses As Amish Woman To Catch Alleged Child Predator [PHOTO]

Police officer Chad Adams dressed as an Amish woman for nearly two months earlier this year, in an attempt to catch a man who Amish families in Western Pennsylvania said was exposing himself to their children.



"I was the butt of jokes from all around, but everyone thought it was a good operation," Adams, a sergeant with the Pulaski Township Police Department, told The Huffington Post.



Adams said in the weeks between the end of December and middle of January, his department investigated several reports of a man exposing himself to Amish children as they walked home from their school. The incidents were reported by Amish people living in New Wilmington, a small town located about 60 miles north of Pittsburgh.



"We didn’t have enough to charge him with a crime, and the parents didn’t want to involve the children in court proceedings," Adams explained. "When doing surveillance, we would see his vehicle, but we couldn’t catch him in the act."



It was a lack of solid proof, Adams said, that made him think outside the box.



"We asked the families if we could get some [women's clothing] and walk along the roadway in hopes he would expose himself to us," the veteran officer said. "I was kind of nervous, because I did not know if they would be offended, but they were totally for it and agreed."



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A photo of officer Chad Adams dressed as an Amish woman. (Photo: Pulaski Township Police Department)



In the weeks that followed, Adams, accompanied by a female officer, donned the Amish clothing and walked the back roads of New Wilmington in hopes of catching the suspected child predator.



"We were hoping he would pull up alongside of us, get out and start doing his thing," Adams said. "I don’t think anyone driving up the road could tell I was a man. I figured he would have been so caught up in his thing mentally [that] once he realized it was a man it would have been too late."



Adams and a select few others, including fellow officers and a few Amish people from the area, were the only ones who knew about the undercover operation. In the interim, the police department arranged for transportation for the children to and from school.



"This guy was pretty [brazen]," said Adams. "He was doing it quite often to the girls before we found out it was going on."



When several days went by without a sighting of the suspect, the police began to wonder what happened to him. It was not long thereafter that they learned authorities in a neighboring county had apprehended someone for allegedly committing similar crimes.



Police in Pulaski Township said they don't have enough evidence to charge that person for the alleged crimes committed in their area, in part because some Amish families aren't willing to allow their children to testify in court.



The sergeant's cross-dressing escapades might have gone unnoticed, had he not decided to post a photo of himself working undercover as an Amish woman to the police department's Facebook page last week.



"Part of me didn’t want to reveal it, but I felt I had to because I didn’t want anything happening like this in the future," Adams said. "I thought if I put this out there, maybe it would deter this guy from doing this again in the future."



Adams added, "I just hope people look at this as a positive, instead of something negative. I really tried to get this guy, so I hope by putting this out there, it helps everyone see what we do behind the scenes -- that we really try hard to catch people like this."



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Savor This Moment

"To everything -- turn, turn, turn

There is a season -- turn, turn, turn

And a time to every purpose under heaven"

-- Turn, Turn, Turn by Pete Seeger, adapted from the Book of Ecclesiastes.



When I look at a stand of bare trees in the cold solitude of winter, I can't imagine what they look like in mid-summer full of leaves and life. Likewise, when I look at a mighty oak tree in the warm sun of July I can't image what it looks like in stripped down winter silhouette.



Somehow my brain just won't let this happen. I am generally able to hold two opposing thoughts in my head at once, yet when it comes to this one situation, I am unable to imagine one situation, while looking at the other.



During spring though, when the trees are filled with blossoms and new light green leaves, no longer just empty branches and before they grow big deep green leaves -- I am able to see both worlds.



It may be cliché to call spring a rebirth, maybe a reawakening is a better term?



In ancient times people used their surrounding environment to gauge what their actions should be. I think events such as the return of a tree's leaves are chapters in the season's book, and I believe flowers have always been characters that weave themselves through nature's narrative.



Growing up in Rhode Island, I remember the crocuses literally pushing themselves up through the icy snow as the first sign of spring, long before the trees were even thinking about budding. I hear tell that the crocuses are just coming up this year, giving hope for an end to the epic winter New England has endured. On the heals of the crocuses are the yellow and white daffodils, then as the waters run free of ice and grass turns green again the tulips erupt across the landscape. This gives us mere mortals the needed faith to persevere as the days get longer.



As the iris bloom the trees blossom, cherry, apple and peach... and magnolia out West. The shade they provide will protect the long stemmed lilies which sneak up on us, as they take many weeks to grow but we don't notice them until the blooms demand our attention.



Whether you celebrate Passover, Easter or Earth Day savor this moment.



Winter trudges through darkness and cold, summer with heat, humidity and daylight that never ends, followed by autumn with dry days and chilly nights, yet it is spring that nourishes our soul and allows us a to gather a years worth of energy, strength and faith.



Take deep breathes. The power of spring is upon us.



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Injunction lifted on Boston Scientific catheter product

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Cargill expects flour merger with ConAgra to be finalized in 6-8 weeks

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